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nkrempa's avatar

Love seeing you on Bluesky!!

At the tender age of 70, I think I'm gonna make sure I can still do everything I can to protect my people. That includes the 3 cats and 1 dog. My kids, my hubby, my business, my home, and my dearly beloved relatives... all deserve all I can do to ensure that their lives continue to be as stress-free as possible. In the process, I'm gonna de-stress as much as I can personally. If that requires backing away from social media and the news for a time, then so be it.

Right this minute, I'm engaged enough to know what's going on out there. I'm following the orange idiot's most egregious utterances, and watching what my representatives in government do about it. I'm dipping in and out of social media (Bluesky), but making time for 'me.' With any luck, with all of us working different aspects of it, we can manage to ensure that the bloviator in chief does not completely kill the world's oldest democracy. I will be with you as much as possible in the next 4 years!! <3

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Paula Brantner's avatar

Thank you, Melissa -- this is excellent. It beautifully expresses many of the things also rolling around in my head.

I'm older -- late 50s. It recently occurred to me that if I stay on the same path that I have tread upon all of my adult life -- a path of always trying to figure out how to make the world a better place -- I will be fighting this fight for the rest of my career. And I just don't want to do that. I'm tired. Whenever my career ends: at 65, 70...who knows? I want to look back and know that I accomplished something, rather than have toiled away for 50ish years just to see that we are worse off than where I started.

Millions of people live their lives without having them revolve around something that it's impossible to change individually, that requires millions of other people to behave in a particular way. I'm not saying I want to walk around oblivious to it all either, but I have to find a better balance now that the passion and energy I brought to the work is mostly gone, and I may not find it back before my work life winds down.

I'm coming around to the idea that changing the world may no longer be my goal. Maybe it's just making my little corner of the world livable, knowing what I know about the way things *should* be. Then trusting the rest of it to work itself out without a major contribution from me. That it will have to be up to those coming behind me to clean up the mess and fix what was broken in this era.

It feels like giving up, and maybe it is. Or maybe it's just a recognition of the life cycle, and that you just can't tackle in your 60s and 70s what you might have been able to in your 20s and 30s. I don't know yet -- I know that I just don't have much left in the tank anymore to tackle the systemic problems I've spent my life identifying.

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